Welp, here we are again, ringing out another year. I have to admit I have mixed feelings about the holiday season, especially during the last few years. I believe and feel the wonder and magic of the holiday season, however it is also often a reminder of the failures of the past year. I have always been one to believe in Santa at every age, and this year is no different, but I have no chimney so I am not making his job any easier. 

As the year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on the past and sure some of that involves celebrating the wins, but it also involves a hell of a lot of beating myself up over the losses. It tends to be a reminder for what I don't have or what I haven't accomplished instead of feeling jolly and merry.

I remember as a "baby Dispatcher" often wondering why we received so many calls of people struggling during the holidays and as I have gotten older, I have started to understand. If you are alone, during the rest of the year, it just is, but during the holidays it feels extra lonely. If you are fighting demons, the rest of the year you can keep them at bay, during the holidays they come crashing down on you. If you had goals, the end of the year serves as a reminder that they are still on the table unaccomplished.

This past year has been filled with highs and lows for me, as I think it has for many. Unfortunately, when you are faced with social engagements that require you to put on a happy face, the thought of adding more to an already full plate often feels overwhelming instead of joyful. I often find myself remembering what I lost, instead of focusing on what I gained

So, as I enter the holiday season, I am choosing to reflect and be grateful. Do I have my shit together? Oh hell no! Do I have everything I want? Fuck no. But I do know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am where I am supposed to be. 

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1. I have a roof over my head. I am not homeless, as so many people are across this globe. I did a ride with the Hollywood Division last week and I met several people literally living in a tent on the sidewalk, the fact that I am not one of them, makes me grateful 

I love where I live, both the geographical location, as well as my little house. My Aunt and Uncle live across the street and that provides me with so much security, and good food. I land from work trips and I feel at peace as soon as my feet hit the ground. My home has become my sanctuary and allows me to recharge and find my center.

2. I got a new job. Sure, I am also playing with the "big boys" now and my job can be stressful and overwhelming, often reminds me of drinking out of a fire hose.  But I have an incredible team of co-workers. And with this job I have been provided the opportunity to travel to some pretty amazing places and create some amazing memories. Uber karaoke in San Francisco, the ferris wheel in Downtown Atlanta, and the Four Seasons in New Orleans topped the list. Watch out Poland here I come in 2023!

3. I am single.  I often have a pity party this time of year regarding my relationship status, but this year I am choosing to reframe it, because this year I loved, sure it didn't last, but my heart felt, and for that I am thankful. I am also so grateful that I am not in the wrong relationship - being beaten, cheated on, lied to, or destroyed. 

4. I have started to deal with the reality of aging parents this year. It is stressful, overwhelming, and it makes you feel as if your life is not yours. The amount of sacrifices you have to make, both personally and professionally, is completely diabolical.  However, I am also grateful for the amazing medical professionals who have provided care and I am even more grateful for the love and support of my family and friends. They literally dried my tears as I broke down in my car, kept me going when I felt like the walls were crashing in, and held my hand as I navigated waters I never anticipated encountering. 

5. The people who have picked me up when I have fallen down and let me tell you sometimes the support comes from unexpected places. I have always had an amazing tribe, and this year is no different, but just want to pause and cherish them a little extra this year, especially since so many of them are also going through their own crises, and yet we still continue to support each other. 

6. The relationships I have lost. The relationships I got into were not my "happily ever after" but I am proud of myself for trying, for feeling, for learning, and for growing. I stayed open to love, and for that I am proud. They strengthened my love of self, my intuition and my resolve to wait for the person who can truly provide me with what I want and need. 

7. Pilates! I miss running with every ounce of my soul, both the physical and psychological aspects of it. However, this year I found Pilates and it has provided me with strength, both physical and mental. It has provided sweat and laughter. It has brought new people into my life and a core strength I never expected to have. I am a believer.

8. Sometimes the most precious gifts come from the most unexpected places, and within those moments incredible healing can be had. So, cheers to homemade cookies and old fashioneds!

9. The fact that I am not perfect. I stumble, I get brought to my knees, and yet I get back up. This past year has provided me opportunities for this cycle time and time again, in my career, my love life, my diet, my exercise routine, my friendships, my finances, taking care of myself, and taking care of others. I have decided to embrace the mess, as long as I keep trying.

10. This blog and the amazing people who read it. As you all know this year I have made a conscious choice to write about more personal things, and not just food, and the amount of love, support and non-judgment has truly been one of the most precious gifts.

So, with that, Happy Holidays! Let's choose to celebrate our wins, both big and small this holiday season. And don't worry I promise you I will not promise you a perfect 2023 or flood your inbox with "new year no me" bullshit. I will continue to be real and raw as we ring in the new year, peppering you with random thoughts, rants, recipes, and insights as I find them. Cheers!